Gayle Carson — Midlife Crisis Coach

17th January, 2011 - Posted by gaylecarson - No Comments

January 17, 2010

What a beautiful week San Diego has had for me. Totally fantastic weather and sunshine every day.

Started off with my Master Mind group–a fantastic group of women who are so individualistic and bring diversified feedback to one another. The next evening we had a meeting of Womens Wisdom, a networking group of which I am a sponsor, and Arielle Ford was our guest speaker. Very interesting presentation on her book, “The Soulmate Secret.” Bought one for my son, but am reading it first!!

Then on to a business meeting and a hospital visit to one of my college roomies. You hate to make those but it’s important to the people you are seeing. One more reason I keep stressing your health, taking care of yourself and making sure you have your preventive screenings etc. Then in the evening, dinner with a friend.

More lunches and dinners with friends the remainder of the week, but never fear, I did a lot of work while I was here. I find I do much better writing when I’m sitting on the balcony of my condo with the sun shining, my puppy by my side and far less interruptions than when I’m in Miami Beach. I think clearer and am more creative.

And of course I had to watch the “Golden Globes” last night. I’m an award night junkie (at least for movies, TV and the stage) and love to watch all the clothes, hear the speeches and watch the “buzz.”

And today we are celebrating the holiday of Martin Luther King Jr, another hero and a person whose words are still quoted every day somewhere. Don’t you just wish that one day we all would live in peace and harmony? When asked what I want for the universe, I always say, peace, harmony, prosperity, wellness and abundance for everyone!

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Question and Answer:

Q: I’ve read all your advice over the last several months and wondered how you would handle this problem. I am finally free of all family obligations and have worked out my budget that I have enough left over at the end of the week to treat myself to a nice dinner or night out. But now everyone seems to think they have first dibs on my time. Sometimes I just want to be by myself or do nothing. What do I say?

A: Actually, it’s very simple. You have to learn to say “no.” That’s your right, and short of a real medical emergency, a family crisis or a friend in need, you should feel no obligation to bow to other people. If you are a kind, civil, responsible adult who lives a clean life, then your choices are your own. Don’t let others make you feel guilty or push you into something you don’t want to do. You’ve earned your stripes and this is your time. Enjoy it.

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Tips:

1. Figure out what makes your heart sing and do more of it.

2. Stretch when you get up to get yourself moving and then do whatever you can to keep that going throughout the day.

3. Love yourself first and then you will love everyone else.

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