Gayle Carson – SOB

11th January, 2011 - Posted by admin - No Comments

January 10, 2011

Well, I saw two diverse movies this weekend.  One was “The KIngs
SpeecH” which was absolutely fantastic.  In fact, the audience
exploded into applause when it was done.  Let’s see how many
awards it collects this year.  It is also amazing that none of
us were aware of the speech problem the king had.  It was a time
of non-media and the royalty was very well secluded in the news
arena.  I don’t think it would be the same now.

Then I went to see “Oy Vey My Son is Gay.”  Funny, truthful and
certainly not the same calibur as the first movie, but everyone
in the audience was laughing at the situations presented.  At the
end the director/producer actually came in front and spoke to us
about the difficulties in putting the movie together and what he
had to do to get it distributed.  And he asked us to let people
know about it.  Whether it would do well in another locale is
a different story, but my friend wanted to see it and doesn’t
drive, so I took her–and enjoyed it!

Still cleaning my office and today threw out 30 boxes of old
notes, mags, articles etc I had saved.  I can’t believe I read
so many different things, spoke at so many events and locales,
and put so much info in my head.  And I still have a ways to
go.  But my son insists I will feel lighter and more focused
when I’m done.  Let’s see.

I’m heading off to San Diego tomorrow and have a bunch of meetings
and other things to attend to.  Looking forward to it but think
it will be a little chilly.  Got Abby’s hair clipped as she is
part of my entourage when I go and she looks adorable.  And she
loves to travel—can’t ask for a better companion.
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Question and Answer:

Q:  I raad a survey today that said that communication is the
most important skill you can have.  I think I am good at listening
but I do get nervous when I have to get up in front of anyone and
speak.  Even one on one has my nerves on edge.  Any suggestions?

A:  As a professional communicator it is difficult for me to
understand how people get nervous.  But then again, I have been
on stage as a dancer, pianist, singer, and speaker.  And when I
started, I was blind as a bat and didn’t have contacts, so I
never could see anyone and therefore didn’t get nervous.  I also
have a degree in Theatre and Speech and had to do 17 public
appearances a week to get my degree.  My suggestion is to practice
into a tape recorder to understand the sound of your voice.  (You
won’t like it by the way, but you will get better).  Then watch
yourself on video (that’s even worse) and learn your mannerisms,
twitches and glitches and how you appear to others.  Then take
various subject areas and just talk about them to feel comfortable
with a lot of different subjects.  You can also practice various
voice inflections by reading from children’s books where you take
the part of various characters.  Believe it or not, eventually
all of this will mesh together and voila–you will be able to
speak without falling apart.  There are still many professionals
who get nervous in front of a crowd, but they go on because they
are professionals.  Just keep trying and you’ll succeed.
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Tips:
1.  To come out unscathed in any situation, your key will be to
not sure hostility during the dealings.
2.  Good body language, which gives off the appropriate message
at the appropriate time, goes a long way toward making the proper
impression.
3.  Don’t spend another day without experiencing the joys of a
new “a-ha.”
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