Baby Boomer Women | Gayle Carson | Midlife Crisis Coach

18th July, 2011 - Posted by admin - No Comments

July 18,2011

Came back from the EWomen Conference in Dallas only to be waylaid
on the tarmac for 1 1/2 hours because of an electrical storm. My
poor daughter rode around in circles for an hour (because she doesn’t
have a cell phone) not knowing what happened to me. She finally
headed home and called me really upset. However, I could understand
her frustration, just not borrowing someone else’s phone to call
and find out what was happening. Anyway, I took a taxi home and
all the animals were pleased to see me.

The conference was great and I made many new friends, saw some
interesting programs and made a sizable investment in myself. I
always believe you can learn something new, so I am at it again.
Pretty soon you will discover all the new adventures I have for
you.

Still sore and black and blue from the surgery, but continued to
work out this morning and preparing for my echo tomorrow. I am
now getting them done yearly and will go through a colonoscopy
in another week. You know I believe in prevention, so I practice
what I preach.

What really impressed me over the weekend is the differece that
so many women are making a difference in so many people’s lives.
It shows that one person CAN make a difference.
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Question and Answer:

Q: I just turned 50 and I know that I am probably being paranoid
but I just can’t get over the feeling that half my life is over
and I’m not doing enough with the time I have left. I’m not really
sure how I should be handling this, what I should be doing and how
I can turn my mood around.

A: You aren’t the first person to write me with this feeling. 50
is a sobering number and it does make you take a look at where you’ve
been and where you’re going. But I would certainly tell you that
this is the best time of your life. You have experience, wiseness,
and view of the world that younger people just don’t have. What is
more important is asking yourself what you want in the next 10 years.
And then plan around that, Start asking yourself “what will knock
my socks off?” And begin doing those things. No one really knows
how long they have (young or old) so it is important to take
advantage of every minute there is. Be grateful for what you
already have and what you’ve done. Choose to investigate one new
adventure each week or month, study something new, find a new hobby,
go to a new social event, and make a new friend. As you can see
by my dialogue above, I am still learning and trying new things and
love every minute of it. Look at mt tipes and the article below.
They address this issue. Don’t give up–the best is yet to come.
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Tips:
1. Reinvent yourself. Change your look and your outlook.
2. Spend as much time as necessary deciding what areas you want to
concentrate on and how much time you want to spend on each.
3. Make a difference in people’s lives by how you live yours.
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FEATURE ARTICLE:

RE-INVENTING THE SECOND HALF OF YOUR LIFE

How exciting! You’re midway through your life, you’ve put some money
away, you’ve successfully raised your family and you’re left your own
mark on the world.

What?? You haven’t?? None of these things describe you? You need
extra money? You aren’t close to anyone? Time has passed you by?

Well, this is YOUR time! You can be anything you want to be.

Would you like to be an interim CEO? Take over a company and turn it
around? Be the one responsible for a company’s second chance? If you’ve
had a successful career as head of a company or division, you just may be
the one. Some organizations need someone strong in sales and marketing,
while others need someone with financial and operational skills. Others
need a strategist and someone who can put the right people in the right
places.

Turn around specialists are hard to find and if you’ve done that in your
past life, this may be your chance at a whole new kind of career.

Perhaps there is something fun on your list that you could never do
because of all your responsibilities. You cannot believe the educators,
retired execs, business owners, scientists etc., who I have met, who are
now driving shuttle vans, acting as tour guides and greeters, simply
because they meet interesting people, have fun and little responsibility
except for insuring people are treated well.

Some of you have been pursuing hobbies both difficult and intricate, and
have become insanely proficient at them. Are those things you can turn
into a part-time business or something you can teach at neighborhood
community centers. Perhaps you can write a column for the local paper
or do a talk show on it if it appeals to the public. Things like
gardening, cooking, embroidery and decorating are things that the
public really likes.

Perhaps you always wanted to have a particular career, and because of
circumstances and responsibilities you weren’t able to accomplish it.
Now’s your chance. It’s the perfect time. I know people who went to
law school at 50, or went back and got a college degree and even moved
to a different part of the country or world!

You may not want to work at all, but go on adventure trips, have a
second home in an exotic locale, or spend time with grandchildren.

It doesn’t matter! This is your time. Make the most of it.

I know you’ve heard this before, but it really does work. If you could
wave a magic wand and have or do anything you wanted, what would it be?
Do you realize that most people can’t answer that question because
they’ve never stopped long enough to sit down and think?

Do that now! Be quiet. Breathe and relax. Let your mind just be.
Visualize how your special day will look. How do you want to spend each
and every day? You will start to become aware of what works for you.

Visualization isn’t easy for me, but verbalizing is. People have come
back to me at various times and commented to me “You always said you
wanted to—” and it’s something I am now doing. If you are clear enough
and can see it yourself, your sub-conscious mind will see that you get it.

So if you come to that mid-life crisis or beyond, start your plan. Get
the skills to make it happen if you don’t have them. Figure out a time
frame that works for your situation. Then work your plan.

Now there are some of you who are already putting up road blocks.
“I don’t have the money.” “I don’t have the energy.” “I have too
many responsibilities.” “Other people depend on me.” Those are your
roadblocks. And you can make them go away. It depends on what you
want more.

All those other things that interfered with your desires can still
be hanging on if you let them.

You’ve paid your dues. You’ve raised your family, paid your bills,
taken care of others and gone the extra mile.

It is your time. Some of you will go for it, and others won’t. I’m an
S.O.B.–A Spunky Old Broad and I am always re-inventing myself. People
think I’m crazy and should be staying home, retired and doing all the
things I’ve always wanted to do.

The only thing they don’t realize is that I have always done what I wanted.
That’s why I don’t have regrets and continue to thrive.