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July 4, 2011

As I write this, it’s the 4th of July and a day which we should all
appreciate as our day of independence. And as you all know I believe
we should all be independent, so celebrate yourself as well.

It is also a weekend with an extra day attached and you know I take
that as a time to do some extra fun stuff and also catching up on
opening all those boxes I have packed away. So Saturday I spent
seeing a wonderful stage show “Song Man Dance Man” a one man show
that was out of this world. All the people I was familiar with and
all the songs I love.

Then Sunday I went to see “Bad Teacher” which was a hoot. While I
stare at Cameron Diaz admiring her beautiful face and body, I also
am laughing my head off. Today, I saw “Larry Crown” and of course
appreciate the chemistry and artistry of Julia Roberts and Tom Hanks.
I think Tom Hanks is one Hollywood star where no one has said a
negative thing. And the subject is so topical. The amazing thing
is he wrote, directed and starred in it, so don’t let anyone tell you
that you are only good at one thing.

Friday night I went to the Bass Museum to meet the curators and have
some fun. Met some delightful people and it is always an eclectic
crowd that goes there. Tonight are the fireworks of course, but I
watch three different shows on TV as I hate to leave poor Abby here
by herself. She just shudders at all the noise. Besides I think I
enjoy them even more in the air conditioning and on TV. I can see
them from my roof however and don’t even need to fight the traffic.

Each afternoon was spent going through all the boxes and bags I have
piled up in one bedroom. Still have tons to do however.

Got all my pre-op done for surgery this Thursday. Yes, once again I
am going through the fat adding procedure to my chest. This will make
surgery #15, but hopefully these last 4 will make it all worth while.

Abby had her teeth cleaned without anesthesia by a woman who is like
a dog whisperer. They ended up giving her a whole bunch of shots she
didn’t need (got her chart mixed up) so she was a little sluggish for
two days but is back to normal now and with clean teeth. Make sure
you always brush your dog’s teeth just like your own with doggie tooth
paste of course.. It can cause alot of problems if you don’t.
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Question and Answer:

Q: I like to cook and find myself spending a lot of time in the kitchen
when I should really be doing more educational things. How would you
suggest I split up my day so that I get more done and don’t get stuck
cooking all day.

A: Boy, am I the wrong one to ask a question like this. I don’t cook
at all. I am one of those “buy prepared food” people. I do make eggs
and can cook pasta and such, but that’s about it, When the kids were
little I bought a cook book, and if it said mix, blend or stir, I did
it, but if it said separate, puree, or anything else, I turned the page!
First of all, if you enjoy cooking and even better, like to create, do
it and write down your recipes. You are a perfect candidate to write
a cookbook. What I would suggest as a time management tool however, is
to decide what else you want to spend your time on and then portion it
out from there. (Good entendre–yes?) For example, I always begin my
morning with a workout and then go on from there. I do my email twice
a day, and spend the rest creating, with appointments, coaching etc.
How much of your day can you afford to spend in the kitchen without
sacrificing anything else? Then plan your day. And for those of you
with the time problem, but not the cooking, do the same thing. The
most important thing is planning your day. It makes all the difference.
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Tips:
1. When you write things down and then structure and prioritize, things
will work out.
2. It takes only one success to wipe out a whole bunch of nonsuccesses.
So keep on trying.
3. Put like things together. Things will flow more smoothly giving you
more time to do a lot of other things.
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FEATURE ARTICLE:
fe crisis. HOW TO STAY HEALTHY DURING YOUR MIDLIFE
CRISIS

MidLife Crisis! Did you ever think you’d have one? What is midlife anyway?
It happens to different people at various times. Some reach it at 40.
Others don’t get a hit until their 70’s.

Most women don’t have a chance to even think about it until they hit their
50’s. In most cases, the first one can happen when your kids leave for
college or re-locate because of job or marriage. We know that as the
“empty nest” syndrome, but you might think of it as abandonment. When you
realize you are “alone” (whether you have a spouse, partner or not),
depression can set in if you have nothing else to look forward to.

If your “being” is wrapped up in your role as wife and mother, and half
of that is taken away, you may find yourself with extra hours on your
hand and feeling a little lost.

It’s interesting that at one time you wished for those extra hours and
now that you have them, you wish that past activity was still swirling
around you. Maybe that’s sending you a message saying your happiness
depends on other people rather than yourself.

That “happiness” message is an important one. You must love yourself
and be happy with your own image to survive any crisis, let alone a
“midlife” one. Health begins with positive self-esteem. If you look
in the mirror and don’t like who you are, then it’s going to be a tough
road to wellness.

1 BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Through the good times and the tough ones!
If you have a terrific code of ethics and a value system that doesn’t quit,
your belief system is intact. It will be sorely tested at times, but if
you stand firm and keep your cool, you should end up right where you’re
supposed to be.
2. FIND A NEW GOAL: It can be overwhelming when change happens. It’s
not usually viewed as positive either. It can happen from restructuring
at work, the loss of a spouse or partner, death of a parent or responsibility
for one, and even a move to a new city. You need something else to
concentrate on.
3 .HAVE A WELLNESS PLAN: Whatever it looks like, Are you more slow paced
enjoying pilates or yoga? Do you like the stimulation of kick-boxing or
step aerobics? Perhaps resistance training with machines, bands or ropes?
Or perhaps a blend of all three? You may be a vegan, enjoy a macro-biotic
diet or even like a daily glass of red wine and a steak. Again, it’s a
steady, healthy blend. We all know workout fanatics who have survived cancer
and people who eat meat daily and have low cholesterol. It’s a crap shoot,
but a “well” person has the ability to fight back more easily.
4. FIND A SUPPORT GROUP: They may be friends, family, an actual support
group, or business mentors. To be well and avoid a “midlife crisis” you
need to be around people who support and encourage not those who pull you
apart and down. By the way, support means exactly that. No judgment,
only encouragement. Perhaps some guidance and definitely some hand-holding.
5. TAKE A TRIP: It can be one day, one weekend or one full week. But
sometimes going to a new destination can totally switch your viewpoint.
You may discover you have a lot more available to you than you thought.
You may find a sense of peace come over you or the opposite. It could be
so exciting that you discover a passion or new hobby. Just getting out of
the same environment can change your thought process.
6. KEEP YOUR “CRAZYTIME PLACE APPROPRIATE:” Although people understand
what you are going through, they don’t want to hear about it all the time.
Eventually you could turn into a “pity party” and that is not an option
to get well, it’s a re-enforcement to stay dormant.
7. FIND YOUR OWN SPACE: Just breathe. Take time to appreciate everything
around you. Look at the picture that makes you smile. Read the thought or
passage that lights your soul. You need to take 15 minutes each day just
for you. If you don’t have them, something is wrong.

All my life, there are two things that have always fueled me–water and animals.
I have chosen to live on and around water and have had tons of dogs and cats.
They’re work, but oh boy, do I light up when I see them.

What’s your trigger? Find it and you’ll never go through another midlife crisis.